Tunnel Vision
We find ourselves in love with someone, often unexpectedly. However, loving someone so immensely isn't always a good thing. Your love's intensity does not dictate its validity. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you should. The more we fall in love, the more we focus on that person. We tunnel vision. No, that's not necessarily a bad thing. What makes the difference is if our love is intended to the right person. We shouldn't lose ourselves in the midst of finding someone. We shouldn't love ourselves less in order to love someone more. Instead, we should discover more of ourselves and become better human beings.
Notice I didn't say that we should find ourselves.
That should come before the beginning of any relationship. You cannot rely on someone else for you to find your identity. Otherwise, you become nothing but a product of someone else's biases and influence. Be your own person with your own mind. Do not let others manipulate who you are. Be the person that you are meant to be. Be beautiful based on your own confidence and not on how many likes you get on social media. Be determined with your decisions. Be passionate with your dreams.
Be tenacious. Be bold. Be you.
I firmly believe that finding yourself is a very personal journey and one that is best undertaken on your own. So, find yourself first before you find someone to give your heart to. And let them help you discover more of yourself as you do the same to them.
Love someone who inspires you to be better.
Love someone whom you don't have to compromise yourself for.
Love someone who loves you without you having to lose yourself in the process.
Love someone who receives the love you give and gives you as much (or more) in return.
Love someone who loves you for who you are.
Someone who encourages you to explore your full potential.