Slow Process

A couple nights ago, a friend of mine texted me about his ex-girlfriend, asking what it means when a girl wears a ring on her ring finger. I figured he wasn’t over her yet. But the thing is, it’s been months since they broke up and they didn’t even last that long (one month). Talking to him, I realized that I’ve gone through so much heartache in just a matter of years, so much that I started to go numb towards those memories. When i was giving him advice, it felt like it’s been so long since I felt that much pain. Telling him how to deal was like reminding myself of how I coped with my broken heart. I’m not the type to burn bridges after a break-up. To this day, I still talk to the ones who used to hold my heart. I don’t hold grudges against them. After all those experiences, I learned that if you rush to get over someone, you end up not getting over them. You just put them aside. But once you’re reminded of how much you love them? It’s “oh sht” for you. It’s a slow process. It’s not going to take just a week or maybe even a month to recover. And you shouldn’t expect to completely forget them because, at some point in your life, you both shared good memories together. Now, your heart hurts every time you’re reminded of those times because they don’t exist anymore, but you gotta get over the fact that it’s over. There’s nothing you can do about that. Reality sucks. That’s why people came up with fantasy; so they can escape from what’s really going on. But it’s better to face the truth and move on than keep on hoping for something that’s not going to happen. This sounds cliche but only time will tell. Surround yourself with friends, school, work, etc. Distract yourself and DO NOT think about your ex. Let it all out of your system. Cry it out if you have to. A friend can only help you to a certain point. They can give you all the advice in the world but it doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to get over the hurt. It just means that your friend helped. You need to understand the situation. It’s no easy task but, after so many mistakes, you learn what not to do. In due time, you’ll find someone better, look back and wonder why you used up so much time on someone that’s not as important as who you got in the end.