I once saw someone post this question online. There was a time when I would have had the same reaction as this person. Angry. Sad. Frustrated. Hurt. But time has passed since then and I’d like to believe that I am a bit wiser than I was before. Life is about choices. It involves sacrifices. And, unfortunately, the choices other people make aren’t always the same as your own. You don’t always win and you don’t always get what you want. Instead, you get hurt.

But how are you supposed to feel when someone else wins the heart of the one you love?

Pain is unavoidable. Rejection is never easy. Neither is loneliness. However, heartache is not an excuse for self-destruction nor is it a valid reason to play the blame game. I have learned to see rejection in a positive light and take it as an opportunity to be open to better possibilities. If someone neglects to see you as the wonderful gift that you are, then move on. No regrets. No resentments. Because a person who not only fails to keep you but chooses to lose you is not deserving of the love you have to give. So, to answer the question: feel however you’d like to feel but don’t dwell in those emotions because life doesn’t stop for anyone. Accept the heartbreak, learn the lessons it brings, and move on. Move forward. You won’t be okay at first. But, darling, you will be. And, one day, you’ll thank yourself for refusing to remain stagnant.